again, i dont care what your intentions are. your x doesnt care either. what matters is that you did.

you seem to think theres a difference between one conversation and another in your x's mind.

to you, there is. this allows you to say that your pushing/manipulating in one conversation has no affect on how your x reacts in another.

but in reality, people dont separate that way.

what you've said and done last week, affects how x is acting today. so your pushing/steering/manipulating last week is part of his conversations today.

this is why everyone talks about consistency.


his telling you he wants many conversations before counseling/mediation/reconciliation is simply a way of telling you he doesnt want it.

his procrastination is him saying no.

someone who wants reconciliation does not make excuses.


"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".