I just meant that it might not be best to ask if your W would likely run screaming from the room and feel too much pressure at the suggestion. . The Retrovaille program does have a Catholic component but it is not overly religious, IMO. It's actually sweet and you wouldn't believe the things that the marriages of the program leaders have survived -- physical abuse, affairs etc. You come away with a great skill at staying connected and also with the understanding that if these couples could forgive each other and stay married, literally anybody can.
