You are very new on this journey so don't be too hard on yourself. DB is not a perfect science there are some dos and don'ts. But those can be tweaked at times to meet your needs. You try something and if it backfires you stop. You need to not put any pressure on her. Let go. Hard to do but necessary. Expectations will always affect you negatively so have none. People may have different opinions on what I'm about to tell you. But why would I invite someone to a game who wants nothing to do with me and wants to divorce me?. My exw cooked and served me dinner for almost a year while we lived together and during the D process. She even sat with me to eat and had conversations. This was affecting me a great deal so I asked for her to discontinue cooking and serving me. She did not like it but I needed to do it for my sanity.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
