MrBond, the actions i am taking are that i am in IC, getting help form me, as to why i have done this repeatedly. I have maid progress, I have maid changes in the way that i interact with people, meaning that i dont share personal info at all. I have become transparent, so my wife will know where i am and what i am doing at all times. She has access to everything. I am trying in every way possible to gain prove that i am sincere and can and am changing.
You are right, it was pretty low. My W forgave me the first time when the 2 OW were involved, this time it was an EA with an OW. She was someone i only emailed frequently and spoke with on occassion. I had been friends with the OW for many years and had always communicated with her. I never quit communicating with her when i met my wife, and i should have.
I have a question. My wife wants to seperate, as i have explained, if this in fact happens, do i then stop doing things for her? I read a lot of the posts on this site and it seems that is one of the "rules"? I am the reason that we are in this situation, and take full responsability for it, so i am feeling like i should be doing anything i can for her, because it is my fault. I just dont know if i should continue to do so if we seperate.
My W and i have been serperated for about 2 weeks now. When we seperated, i went to stay at my mothers for a while, not really knowing what to expect, i really didnt want to add rent for another place into our finances. However, I cannot stand being at my mothers in this capacity. I go to our house when she is working and i am off, to tend to our youngest S. I have said that i would help her anyway i can. I am trying to be just a frined as she wants at this point. any thoughts on this? I am the cause of the whole mess, so where do i stand, how do i act, what do i do? I want to fix my marriage and get my wife back. Help, please.
I hate being on moderation, waiting for things to show up is a killer. Anyway. My quesiton is, in my sitch, where i am the one who had the EA, and we are now sepetated, do i do the GAL? I want to save my marriage at any cost, but since i had the EA, this has caused my W to want the seperation, so i feel obligated to beg and plead. The more i read on hear thats the worse thing to do, but since i am the cause.....so confused. How long is one on moderation?
