Portia, eventually you will reach that state when your memories of Skippy are not painful anymore. I’m not completely there yet, but I found that I can talk about some past events involving H and not feel pain. I have some practice though, I see our mutual friends and it is just impossible to avoid all the topics that include H sometimes.

I don’t think that it is strange for Skippy to text you out of the blue. He definitely thinks about you. Whatever is going on in his life right now, he just cannot stay away from you. He cannot help it. Maybe he is trying hard to forget about the life with you, but apparently it is not working for him.

Don’t worry about sending the wrong message. Do what feels good for you. If you want to respond, do it. And then forget about it until the next text, LOL. I don’t think that he would interpret your reply as if everything is OK. I think he knows very well that you would not be OK with any of his GFs and you on the picture at the same time. I think these texts are his attempt to keep some connection to you while he is trying to figure out what he wants.

I would not mind a weekend at the spa too smile .


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state