your intention makes no difference. you steered him into saying it. which means what he said, wasnt what he really thought, it was what he thought you wanted to hear.
just like he just told you he doesnt want an appointment with the mediator, but you pushed him into it.
just like he didnt want reconciliation but you and the mediator pushed him to it.
you're not listening to what he's really saying and you're pushing him to tell you what he thinks you want to hear.
and then you're sitting here wondering why its not working out.
well, its because when he tells you what he's thinking, you push and steer to get what you want.
so yes, more waiting until you learn to just listen.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
