Still lots of focus on H and what he does, or doesn't do.
Keep working on you and your detachment from him and his "stuff". While some of his issues may be a problem for you (friends) they may not be a problem for him. Let go of his problems.
Can you see him as separate (not in the marital sense) from you with his own life, his own GAL, his own friends and that not affecting you?
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I know H is struggling- he tells me almost every time we have contact. It's difficult to show compassion and appreciation when we have sporadic contact. He thinks he really didn't matter to us- what will me GAL do for that point of view?? (I'm not going to stop GAL, but it just is all confusing)
It's his struggle, let him have it. You said, in the same post I believe, that you believe your sitch was a msg from the universe that you needed.
Respect that he needs whatever he's going through and offer unconditional love and support. It may be from afar,but he'll feel that. What we practice when we're apart from people is important because then we don't have to worry about doing anything different when we're with them.
If you love him from a distance, you will be lving when he is in front of you.
If you have compassion for him from a distance, you will be compassionate with him in person.
Look up Valeska's threads-you might appreciate her writing.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
