Bug, the fear isn't really what H will do or say. I'm trying to figure out whether this is a decision that (legally) requires me to come to an agreement with my H, or if this is a day-to-day call that is within my sole jurisdiction to decide. That's not to say that I will do this forever - I think it's important to be cooperative in co-parenting; I have done that so far to the extent I am able, and I aspire to have that kind of R with my H in the future. But at the moment, things are very tense (H is up to something or mad about something - he acted all pissed off and refused to look at me or even in my general direction in TKD last night) and I am just trying to get through.
If I know that I don't HAVE to come to an agreement with my H, I am fine to ask for his input, consider it, and then make my own decision. I am not worried about him disliking my decision, I just want to feel sure that I am doing what is mine to do, if that makes sense.
If I know that I DO have to come to an agreement with him, it's a different (and more difficult) situation.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
