I am catching up on your sitch. Reading from the begining. I wander over to your thread after you lovely post on mine. I will answer the question you raised on my thread later.
I have a lot to post so bear with me.
I wanted to pop in to let you know that I am going to start to follow your sitch. I think I can help you.
I have a LOT more to post to you, which I will get to later on, once I finish reading every one of your post.
I see a LOT of the old me in YOU. A lot. I want to let you know that so far from what I have read, I think their is HOPE. A lot of HOPE for YOU.
That said, from what I have read so far, you are comming across as a pissed off, spoiled, drinking, selfish, paranoid, worried about his own arse and scared chitless about his finances person. You appeared to be very insensative to your W and really did not give a rats arse how she felt. It was ALL about YOU.
I think LFW, said it best. Are you going to DB or NOT? That is the first question you need to answer. Personally, I would suggest trying to DB. Just my opinion.
You are so scared right now, I can see it but I wonder if you are just scared about losing your W, who by what I have read so far was a pretty good wife or you are really scared for yourself. Who you are? What are you gonna do?
For now, do yourself a huge favor and STFU - stop talking to your W about the D, stop bring up OM, simply STFU.
You have only been at this for a short period of time.
It looks like you were a knucklehead for 9 years and your W tolerated it. It will take more than a few months to turn this around.
So OneDay - are you ready? Are you ready to STFU and listen? Are you ready to be pushed? Are you ready to give it your all to try and save your M?
For better or worse....in sickness and in health...
Seems like your W lives these ^^^ for 9 years. I personally, think you owe it to YOURSELF to try it as well - at least for more than a few months.
Oh...and before you tell me she is banging someone, which you did not do - consider this...she may be banging someone - you...well you just hung out with a bottle.
I'll be back to post to you later today.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
