Confused as to which direction I should go?

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I have been reading the posts on this site for days and decided to join...

I am unsure which direction I need to go or what. I am really confused right now as to what to do and hoping that someone can offer up some advice and hope.

A little over 2 years ago around the time that my son moved out of the house my W started to become more independent, spending time with friends, going out and developed a number of relationships with co-workers (mostly guys because she works for an engineering company) etc... Last year this behavior began bothering me so I withdrew from her. Fast forward to 9/2013 after she returned from a work trip, I didn't welcome her home with open arms so as the day went on she packed a bag and said that she was leaving for a week to figure things out. I was leaving in a couple of days for a work trip and we discussed re-visiting what was going on. She left for a few hours and returned home after speaking with a friend who told her that she shouldn't have left. We discussed our issues and set expectations. During this time I have begun exercising and started seeing a therapist.

However, fast forward to now and the W has become emotionally disconnected, not to just me but our D as well. We have had many conversations about this but I end up with going off crying somewhere while she gets on her phone. The other day we had another conversation where the W indicated that she felt like needing a number of weeks away to try and figure out why she has become so disconnected at home. She continues to say that she is committed and wants our M to work. Our sex life is great and she tells me ILY daily but if I didn't come home for a week I don't think she would care.

So I am confused as to what step/process this is? We are going to the Movies this weekend and discussed the other day about having a date night each week. I am miserable on a daily basis and some days can't even function.

I have read Sandi's tips but they seem to apply to those who are on the verge of D, we have only discussed separation.

Any advice/direction/help would be greatly appreciated.