I'm reaching the point where I'm giving myself a lot of credit for parenting as I have and hanging in with someone who was so damaged for so long. I suspect you are reaching that point too.
I'm seeing how exhausting he was to be married to. I was tired all the time. All the time. Being with him wasn't energizing, it was draining.
It's like someone wiped the film off the glass and I can see my marriage as it really was, my H for who he really is. Funny isn't it? Our Hs see only the bad things after the fact, I saw only the good things during. Now, I'm facing both honestly, the good and the bad. In some ways, we had a marriage better than most...but, I definitely wouldn't settle for better than average anymore.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
