I'm struggling with making all the decisions I need to make concerning the D, and trying to dig deep into how I got into this position. I have been doing 180s, but they are mainly used on kids as H is not home much. I'm really noticing a change within me on these 180's. For example, I listen until the very end when they are talking, I don't jump in o correct or try to fix, I try to valadate their feelings. I have slipped up plenty of times, but I try to think anout the slips and how I should have responded.
When my D and I talked last weekend, I did jump in too much. My plan next time we talk is to STFU and let him talk. Even when I don't agree with what he feels are fair terms fo the divorce.
Just some journaling.
M45 H46 M16 yrs D17, D10, D7 DB 1-23-2014 H filed D 2-14-2014