Three months in and you'd think I'd have this validation thing down. My wife came out of our bedroom in a bit of a huff calling me to come and look at the toilet in our ensuite. She discovered water seeping up between the pipe and the tiles and starts ranting about the real estate. I begin to talk and mid-sentence realise what I'm doing and try to switch to listen and validate mode. By then, I'm trying to recap what my wife said, listen to what my wife is currently saying and think and validate on the run.

This grasshopper has much to learn Miyagi-san.


Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014