I'm just catching up. First, it's sounds like your interactions with your h have been positive. That's great. And I agree with the keeping the log about how much time your h actually spends with the kids. I do the same.
I want to be clear that I have close female and male friends and I disagree that it is an automatic that custody should 50/50. Horse caca! My h lives 5 minutes from us and he has dropped by, called and texted about the kids exactly 0 times in the last 5 days. The week before last he spent 11 hours with them- 6 of them being in the car and the other 5 were divided between him napping and being on his phone. I wish this was an exaggeration but it isn't. Frequently , he doesn't even speak to s10 during his visits. Mine may a bit different. Obviously , each circumstance is different and being a caring , involved parent isn't gender specific.
I know it's difficult but try to relax. I think they say things without always thinking them through. Your h " in theory" may want 50/50 with the kids but then reality of meaning the kids are actually with you 50% of the time is a bit if a reality check for some. It sounds as if your h has a busy career and perhaps has not really thought all of this through. Who watches kids when they are sick? Will your h? Or would he call you on his ( ugh I hate this reference because of how f$&ked up d is for kids ) and have you take them ? Just talking out loud.
Again, it sounds like your relationship is much more positive and that's awesome. Your boys are very young and shuttling them around could be very disruptive and uncomfortable for them. Just my 2 cents.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
