3boyz, I wouldn't say "yes, let's make that happen," nor would I argue with him about it. I would blow it off. Unless I am misunderstanding - but if I am correct, you have an agreement that has been working well for you, and your H doesn't even have a place he can take them 50% of the time. And, it doesn't sound like you are even close to filing anything, so this seems like a moot point, and your H is just trying to go for the jugular.
We do have an agreement that has been working well. My H still lives at his parents so he take even take then 50% of the time. I am not close to filing and I am not sure where my H is. He response is always "I don't know." My H just wants to point out that he is being nice in allowing me more time with the kids.
[/quote] Dads aren't entitled to 50/50 custody, and I disagree with others who say that children are always best served by splitting their time 50/50. Much of it depends on the age of the child, the fitness of the father to have them (and I mean things like, having a place to live, for starters, that is fit for children, having the time to parent them, etc., not just that he is not hooked on drugs or abusive), and the history of time spent with each parent. [/quote]
I guess that is what I was wondering. When I read the advice on the board, it seems like everyone always says that 50/50 is the best. And again, I want my H and kids to have a great relationship and time together. I am just not sure that I agree that 50/50 is best for the kids. My kids are just so little that I cant imagine them being shuffled between two homes all the time. It is helpful to hear that 50/50 custody may not be recommended by experts for kids this young.
I am definitely not going to address the issue with my H. We are not at that point yet. I actually don't even think that my H is trying to be an ass. I think that he just does not fully understand how hurt I am about this entire situation (the S, the A, my loss of time with the kids). I think that he is still very self centered and does not see (or want to see) how his actions are affecting me or the kids.
