In my case my attorney advised me to keep a journal of how many hours/days my H is actually spending with my S currently. Since I told my H he can see our S as often as he likes it will be good to be able to say "when he had unlimited access, here's how often he actually came around..." should this ever go to mediation/court. For the past few weeks its been about 4.5 hours per week so I'm pretty sure his 50/50 argument won't hold up.
I am glad to hear the advice that you received from your attorney. Right now, my H has the kids two nights a week from approximately 530-930. On Sunday, we spend the days a family. At the moment, He is only spending eight hours a week alone with them and maybe eight hours on Sunday. My H is similar to your H in that he cannot work the hours that he is working and take care of the kids 50% of the time. It is just not possible. I know that I could make a lot more money (and be a partner in my firm), if I worked all the time. But it is not possible because I take care of the kids. It is a sacrifice that I have made. I am not sure if my H would be willing to make that sacrifice long term.
Originally Posted By: bluesgal
Why is your H saying this to you? Is he threatening D again? How are things between you two other than these instances?
My H has not taken any steps toward D. Our interactions have been really positive lately. With the exception of these two conversations), there has been no drama. My H was not mean during this conversations. It just hurts that he feels the need to point out that he can request 50/50 custody when it really has not bearing on the conversations that we are having.
