H moving out tomorrow

[TL72*]

Thank you Bright - yep same here 17 years and he did say he loved me just the day before. Now I don't even get a "how are you".

so tonight i met up with him to get my car key back and a check for the health insurance that comes out of paycheck. I asked him to meet me at Kroger lot, thought it would save him time instead of having to drive all the way up to the house and I needed some items at Kroger anyway. I made sure I put on my positive attitude and confidence first, and I also made myself look pretty before going out. He parks next to me and I get out and he is putting off sort of a cold angry vibe? Yes i know i am just guessing, but the first thing he asks after starting to write me the check is "when are you putting the house on the market?" I said "i'm not....what gives you that idea?" He answers "all the fixing up going on". I answered "I had the ceiling fixed because there was a hole in it" (he had stepped in the wrong place and broke a bit of the ceiling and i wanted him to pay for half before he moved out so that's why I had that done). That was done BEFORE he moved out. The only other thing I did was have the garage door opener repaired because it was broken for 4 years, and that was done before he left too. The only other stuff I can think of is that I moved office furniture around and painted the ceiling where the repair was done. So he must have been thinking about this and noticed it I guess. I'm not sure why it matters to him since he put it in the papers that the house was my responsibility and i'm to refi it to take his name off the loan. I told him that I had to have the house appraised for the refi so it has to be in shape before that. Then he asked why I didn't want him coming to the house (because I said meet at kroger) and i said that wasn't it, that I just needed some things at the store. I was being mysterious i think by asking him to meet me there instead. it did make him think about it apparently. Then he says "you've lost a lot of weight!" he saw me last week, i have not lost weight since then, he just didn't notice while we were living together, i think he wasn't looking at me at all that last month even though we ML almost every night before he moved out. I said "i was losing weight before you left" and he said "not that much" which.... like I said, he just saw me last week and I have not lost any more than a lb since then. I was wearing a new top that was more fitted so I guess he just noticed it. I was happy he was checking me out. He seemed overworked, tired and a little miserable. I was being happy/easy breezy. I asked how work was and he talked about that a bit and asked about the pets, and that was it. He didn't ask me how I was or how my work was or anything else. I just wanted him to see I was not falling apart without him. mission accomplished. for some reason i felt good about the visit, like I followed the 37 sandi's rules and am showing that confidence and GAL. now i will go dark again until i ask for the next check for the insurance. once the papers go through i guess it will be dark dark - i don't know how to let him know i'd like to remain friends, i don't want to say as much because it would seem like pursuing. i did that in the beginning before i knew about DB, so he should know that i still want him but right now I'm acting "as if" he'll never come back.