H began spinning Saturday. I suggested he see our therapist individually. What came out over 72 hours of his introspection were the words " I love you. Every good thing, event, memory and safe place has you attached to it. This is very powerful for me."
But he has realized he needs to work on him for him to be a part of us.
I couldn't agree more. The reason for this post is sometimes they do figure it out and if it wasn't for DB, the mistakes and victories made by all who live this everyday, I would not be here right now and neither would my H.
In a place where he can begin to love himself and a place where I can love him whether he remains as my husband or not.
I was not like this almost two years ago. I was an insecure control freak. Not very pretty, but very true. I learned pretty quickly that the only person I could control was me and the work went on from there.
I even learned to forgive myself and after that, forgiving anyone else is a piece of cake.
Good luck on your journeys, wherever they are leading.
Ruby, I didn't realize you'd moved from the piecing forum! Had been wondering about you!
I'm glad to see you finally stand for what you want, what you deserve. We've been talking about it off and on for a long time now, and you knew the day would eventually be here. I think you handled it like a champ. Bravo lady.
Thanks BD. I think the therapist's words also resonated with me as she started as our MC.
She said that I had done a lot of hard work and deserved someone who could give back emotionally. Leaving unsaid that H is not capable of that at this point
I guess I just needed to hear it, although I've known it for a while
Ruby, this is wonderful! You’ve done a lot of work. You have been always my inspiration. I learnt a lot from you. I’m also approaching 2 years from BD, and I’m grateful for this board.
Keep busting, girl. I have so much hope for you and your H.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
