I'm back again 4 years later

[praying_in_GA]

Thank you for your perspective, Stander.

He was never really looking for the family thing anyway. I told him before we got engaged that I wanted kids. He went ahead and married me. We were done after two (and we had JUST come back strong from his first time leaving) and we were in agreement for a vasectomy. The week before we were to make the first appt I found out #3 was already on the way. Then he lost his job 3 days later. It has been 3 years since he has been a full time student. He graduates in Dec of this year. He is talking about wanting to move to Seattle when he graduates. Now he is saying he wants to join the Navy Reserves so they can help with his student loans. (we did end up getting that vasectomy btw)

He seems very adamant about not wanting to be with me anymore. Of course I didn't remember all of my DBing and we had a long talk last night. He sad repeatedly that he is just not happy and he doesn't want to live anymore of his life unhappy. He wants to be able to go find what makes him happy....be it being alone or being with another person or whatever.

There is no one else as he knows that is his easy way out of this. He even said if he wanted me to cut ties quickly that's the way to go. He has been slightly cold towards me when we talk.

He said he would move out whenever I tell him to. He doesn't have a job but will get one this summer. He can go live with his brother if he needs to before he has the money for his own place.

I'm trying not to get hopeful here.