Blues here is another big hug for you (()). I think we are stilk at very similar stages. I go along thinking I am doing pretty well with detachment and then am drawn back in by shock and concern over something h does.
I think for many of us here this is one of the Hardest things we have gone through. (For me it is second only to watching my s struggle to live in the nicu). It is so hard because we are fealung with our own grief and confusion and that of our children and trying to make ourselves better people and builf new lives. At the same time we have the pain of watching someone we still love spiral out of control. And that is where we (or at least me) get stuck. I guess that is where the love comes in in lovingly detach
The goodbye is important. Even if it is said symbolically to the universe and not to h. I have read some people on hear writing letters to say goodbye (obviously not to give to h but for you. )
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
