Then our surprise 3rd baby came along and things are falling apart. He hasn't been happy for years. He wants to be able to go out and do what makes him happy.
As a dad of 3 I can relate a bit to what he's saying, I remember when our 3rd (who was a "surprise" like yours, although "shock and awe" might actually describe it better, LOL!) came along I went through a phase of feeling trapped, caged in. And with your youngest being two, well they don't call it the "terrible twos" for nothing! But I knew that in my case it was something I had to deal with within myself though, and slowly I started seeing the positives instead of focusing only on the negatives.
DB'ing is all about giving your spouse time and space and it sounds like he could use that right now. Hopefully he'll do some soul-searching and change his mind. Good luck!
