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[Azagtoth]

Ok... I have a question/concern and need an honest answer/opinion or two.

I'm seeing signs the wife may be starting to "warm up" again. I know they will run "hot & cold" so I am expecting this. Problem is, I am now very wary from what happened between December & January described previously in my thread.

I don't want to be used any more than the next person. If she decides to initiate sex for the sole purpose of physical release without any emotional commitment, I don't feel like I want any part of that. Not saying that she isn't acting at some emotional level, but without any kind of real commitment or connection, just doesn't seem right to me and it is something I feel strongly about.

I spoke to our therapist about this in IC; she said to try and go with it as to not reject or alienate her, but if I truly feel this way, then I do have the right to say no.

It's not that I don't desire my wife and have lost any of my love for her; it just doesn't feel right to me. Add in the fact I am on an SSRI and my libido is shot doesn't help.

I know some of the LBH's on here are going to think I am nuts, but, it is what it is.

So, I would like to hear from any of the WAW/AWAW crowd on this. Should I just bite the bullet on this and let her have what she wants, when she wants it, or is it ok to say no? What is the best way to deal with this?

Thanks.


Azagtoth