Wow! Eric. I've to reply to this later man. You literally gave me the boost I need man. I'm driving down to DC next week. My little girl is coming home with me.
Wow! I'm truly touched man. I enjoy having conversation with wise men. Your situation is worse compare to mine but you not even showing it in your writing. I admire that about you man. You spoke to me man. I'm feeling everything. I need complete turn around now. I'm driving this boat too fast and not getting any result. I need to slow it down.
I did not think about the affair or worry about them in the past week and half.
You're in denial, it's about all you've focused on in your posts here in the past week and a half. You're trying to convince yourself that you are detached. BUT YOU ARE NOT. You are WAY too early in your sitch to be detached, you're still cycling. Acknowledge it and it'll be easier to deal with. Read The Happiness Trap, it'll help you to understand your emotions and how to deal with them. Denial is a TERRIBLE way to deal with emotions, because they just come back bigger and uglier later.
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I got mad last night thinking about the crap he wrote.
That's what I mean right there, you're still cycling. Detached does NOT mean "I didn't think about W yesterday" it means "I see, talk and interact with my W but her words and actions do not affect my PMA or self-esteem anymore, and it's been this way for months."
And besides, I would be HAPPY if I read something like that from my W's OM! Why? Because this I can promise you- that relationship is not going to last much longer. He will not be able to hide his true colors from her for long.
