How do you do THIS part...

[ericmsant2]

Suckerpunch

I will admit, it is still hard for me, not to focus on W and why she is making the choices that she is.

It takes time to work through all of this. So be gentle on yourself – for now.

I don't even know what I want for my life.

Instead of focusing on the scary part of this journey…..focus on the positives. You can define YOUR life. It can be what YOU want it to BE! So take the energy you are using thinking about your ex and apply it to figure out what YOUR dreams are. Start small…. what emotional goals do you have for you, how do you want your R with the kids to be like, do you want to travel, what about work…have you ever wanted to do something else, hobbies….what have you always wanted to do?

This time it will have to be different, parenting plans, dealing with exes, co-parenting and still trying to establish a happy loving relationship of my own.

Different is NOT right nor is it wrong…it is DIFFERENT. YOU are not a failure, nor are you less of who you were. On the contrary, you can be stronger and you can be better BECAUSE things are DIFFERENT.

Wife is becoming more angry, as the divorce ramps up.

Par for the course – allow her to live her choices. Ignore her anger and let the L’s deal with it.

She was just given notice to vacate our apartment, by my siblings. This was on recommendation of my attorney.

Listen to your attny..but also remember your attny works for YOU.

It isn't something that anyone can be proud of. I do feel like a failure in some regards, but I hope I can continue to grow from it.

Raise your right hand…..come a little closer to the screen……closer……..closer….LOL…no seriously, look in the mirror and say to yourself – I am not a FAILURE! I am not a FAILURE! You can be proud that you stood for what you believed in, you can be proud that you are an active parent in your kids life. You are not a failure!

Peace,
Eric