Well, I don't want to beat you up too bad because you know you backslid, but yeah, it was a pretty big backslide. Even though you say you're not trying to guilt him into returning, that's exactly what it sounds like and probably how he perceived it. You're trying to reason with him which doesn't work because WAS's are acting on emotions, not logic. They're being motivated by their feelings and you can't "snap them out of" their feelings. I'm sure on some level it felt good to get that off your chest, but now that you've said it hopefully you can move forward without ever repeating any of that. If/ when he's ready to talk about reconciling HE will come to YOU. Until then, stick to your DB'ing, always remember Sandi's rules, and as some around here like to say, when in doubt sit back and drink a cool glass of STFU
