own buz 23:mediation to reconcilliation, PATIENCE!

[makingmagic]

Hi Courageouswife. Thanks for commenting. I am so sorry to hear you are here again.

I would not be able to persevere through this again... so we must get it right, now.

I can agree, we are both not quite ready for a full reconcilliation. I still have work to do and he is just beginning his.

I am not sure where the OW is at this point. He has not made full effort to pursue either. Its just lingering. Its just up in the air. I am not pursuing it, nor am I manipulating it or trying to control it... Its really hard not to steer it. So, this is a big HUGE 180 for me. I am sitting on my hands with my mouth shut.

Yes, working I am pleasant. I am all over the place not being consistant with flirting and going dark. Im not sure what I am doing.... any advice/comment on this?

To answer your question. Yesterday, I lingered because the day before I rushed and he was apparantly going to ask me to go shopping, but I rushed out. So, yesterday I lingered a bit, as to not rush.