Sex-Starved??? That's an understatement!

[melissag]

I agree with zew. YOU may not have seen what you said as antagonistic, but obviously SHE did. Even if every single one of us here says, "oh, you are SO right, that was not confrontational," who cares? How would that help you in your R with your W?

In my mind though im saying "because when u go shopping u buy all of your things and F*** UP! the things I need and your only comment is "who cares? eat it anyway It won't kill you!"

So then how can you say what you said was not confrontational, when this was the thought process behind it?

How disrespectful! What if the tables were turned and she sent me out for her favorite Pistachio ice cream and I came back with her disliked cookies-n-cream (which I would NEVER do and have NEVER done) and I said "who cares? eat it anyway it won't kill you!"

What was disrespectful, IMO, is you being angry with her for not knowing the difference between VW and VW Zero. She told you, they all look the same to her. How is it disrespectful for her to make an innocent mistake? What about the fact that she was going to get the VW water for YOU to begin with? What if you appreciate the fact that she tried, even if she messed up and got the wrong kind?

Your analogy is way off here. Accidentally buying the wrong kind of VW, assuming the bottles look more or less the same, is completely different than buying an entirely different flavor of ice cream. It would be more like you accidentally picking up the light version of pistachio rather than the regular. Have you never made a mistake like that?

I think your whole post reeked of disrespect for your W. Especially for someone who is trying to save his M! Did you read DR? Yes, it totally [censored] having to put our own feelings on a shelf for a while, but since YOU are the one who is here, working on the R, that is what you have to do! Keeping score with the car and the grocery shopping isn't helping your M. It's just you blaming your W. I think you should reread DR, and start with a beginner's mind. How about if you give your W the benefit of the doubt here?

What if, instead of saying "good thing I was here," you had said, "I KNOW, they DO look a lot alike!" ???

How would you want to be treated in that conversation, if you were her?

LFC, I KNOW this is a tough time for you. But your W is still living with you. She is still giving things a shot. She is going to the store with you and trying to get the things you asked for. Can you not see that she is giving you a chance? This is a golden opportunity for you to show her that you have changed - but have you? Most of us don't have this opportunity - don't blow it!!