"This is ridiculous, how did we ever get here". I don't want to interact with her like this anymore.
You actually do not have to. Why do you keep thinking that you are somehow going to talk to her in a manner that she will “get it”. Stop it. State your views and position and then just drop it.
Your XW may never come to the realization of the amount of destructions that was done. Can you blame her? I mean think about it…..she would need to own all of her choices and the consequences of these choices. Can you see how painful that may be for her. I struggled with this for a while until I realized that on some level, just how much pain it would be for my ex can’t face her choices. To be honest, if I did everything she did I’m not sure I could face it. So I have compassion towards her. I really feel for her. Personally, I believe that deep down inside the exes know. I see some of this in her response to you about finding someone. She wants you to be happy on some level – probably because is help ease her pain. Almost like…I left him for dead but at least he found happiness so maybe I did the right thing. Yes, I am doing a bit of mind reading here and so I may be wrong.
Rock – all you can do is live your life. Find your core, find your happiness and really let her go. Let her live her choices and her life. Interesting story, I received a call the other day, someone wanted some advice. The issue was a father, a father whom for the most part left his daughter. He had his issues and he choose not to deal with them. He has since decided to fix his issues and now, he is trying to “reconcile” with his D. His D does not know him. He has been absent. She unfortunately, went down what I would call the wrong path. So her dad is now trying to reconnect to help her. It is sad…really sad. He is NOW ready and she is not. As I explain to him (and it killed me to say it to another father)….”you are now living the consequences of your choices. There is still hope but it will take time. Don’t give up. Own your chit, when your d reminds you. Allow your actions to speak”, etc. My point to you Rock is that maybe one day your ex will come back, maybe one day she will own her choices – who really knows. Your job though is to be the best Dad, friend, person YOU can be and the rest….ya leave to God.
Reading your post, I can see that you still love her. You always will man. Always on some level. It is okay. The more distance you put between her and YOU the better you will feel.
Now….when are we going to hear more about the latin dancing adventures?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
