Won't stop affair. Wants divorce now.

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I understand perfectly what you are going through. I am too disappointed at my XW's choices but it is hers to make for whatever reason she deemed fit.

I don't get to see her every day or every week. I see her every month and that's it. She get to see OM everyday. They work together and reside in same city. I can not compete with that. We are talking about relationship affair here now. Her family knows about OM already. I no longer have any communication with them anymore.

Is there a reason why you can't schedule more time with your daughter?
Why do you feel the need to compete?
Still obsessing over the affair?
Is there a fear that your kids will be more attached to OM?
Do you still want to communicate with W's family? What's stopping you?

FYI, the OM in my sitch became XW's BF, now that we are divorced. Likewise, her family accepts him now.
I still visit my kids at XW's on weekdays which btw is my former home. OM/BF is staying over there now so he gets to be with my kids more than I do.
I do suspect that he tries to get my attention sometimes. I choose to ignore. He will not be a hindrance. My time with the kids is my time with the kids.
I am still 'papa' to my kids and they know it.