The strangest part of the conversation was when she was telling me that she wished I would start dating and find someone new. I don't know why, but she thinks this would make everything between us and with our kids better.
I explained that this has been a big transition for me and that I am working through a grieving process and am not yet ready to date. Her response was:
"Grieving what?"
I explained that the end of our marriage was a huge loss for me and I need time to process it. Her response was:
"What loss?"
I just let it go. She was completely sincere. We have spent thousands of dollars on lawyers and building separate homes. Everything we have has been divided. She has lost relationship with her mom, my family, most of her family, most of our friends and me. She has seen her kids maybe 7 days so far this year, and will see them less than 50% of the time for the rest of their childhood. The relationship with her kids will never be the same, and our kids will need to work through the emotional fallout of a broken family through the entire course of their lives. Finally, our financial security has been destroyed and needs to be completely rebuilt.
And, her response is "What loss?".
I just cannot understand how someone can think like that.
