I can see how you feel H is not ready for Not Just Friends. I can so relate to what H is going through for it was painful for me to realize how much I had hurt Ms. Wonka. This is when our empathy chips are now back in good working order and when we do see the pain we've inflicted on you...NOT FUN at all!
Another good book is After The Affair by Janis Spring. She talks about how it takes place, how it affects the betrayed spouse, and how to repair the damage by earning the spouse's trust.
Not Just Friends may bring up painful triggers for you, Raine. Wanted you to be prepared for this possibility. It was tough for me to read this book and I could only get through about 30 pages before putting the book away for good. Since then, I haven't even opened it again and that's been close to 10 years.
Now on to the ring...
I didn't like it. It doesn't feel right. I'm for sure doing it for him. I love him and care about him and have all of those feelings for him symbolic of wearing a ring that links me to him. I've gotten used to not wearing one, so it just is an annoyance more than anything right now
-What is about the ring that you don't like? -What is it about the ring that doesn't feel right? -What does "feel right" mean to you? -In what ways is it an "annoyance" to you?
What are those cues telling you? Perhaps there may be some unresolved emotions that are stuck or not being fully acknowledged.
