thanks Artsy. long day...W and I exchanged emails and texts about the kids and specifically about why D16 has been so upset about the venting that happened from W. I asked W to stop doing that and told her that it hurt and confused the kids. Still my D16 us upset and rightfully so. In my naïve belief that I could get my W to see that venting hurt them, I betrayed my D16 by telling W she was upset about it. she confided in me about the trouble and I let her down. Having a very hard time with this. I really need to stay away from W and keep all convo's to business only.

Otherwise I just make a mess of things and people get hurt.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14