I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

I read something about a WAS and one thing they do is build a safety net months, if not years in advance. They make their minds up long before they decide to drop the bomb.

Even when she dropped the bomb on me, she was still fairly loving toward me. Sure, things were a little different but she never really mentioned divorce until AFTER we were separated. I think the thought of D is a new concept to her. From 1/25-2/14, thinks were just so petty between us, I think she just wanted relief from that and she just shut down. Since 2/14, things have slowly gotten less bitter.

I'm not trying to give myself false hope here, but if she was truly wanted a D right now, wouldn't it be a little more obvious? I read these forums religiously and it seems someone who has completely checked out usually projects certainty that the marriage is over and D what they want.

She has never said once that she WANTS a D. Not once.