Hi Mic, the move was planned before BD. About a year ago my H was promoted and the new job is based in another city, and includes a lot of travel. He has been traveling most weekdays for a year now, the job has really stressed him out and I think (mind reading) that this has been one factor in his wanting to D. We were going to move this summer and my oldest D was going to stay here and finish school living with her close friend. I hated that my D was going to be seperated, but it seemed like the best option.
When my H called to tell me he wanted the D, I just knew that I could not seperate the girls and leave my D to deal with this on her own. We would go from one houshold to three. Also I love the city were I live now, I have friends and my kids have friends. The other city is closer to my parents. I will consider moving after my D graduates, but I won't make it part of the decree because I just don't know what life will look like in 15 months. I may have a great job (I hope to have a job!), I maybe in a great situation.
Of course, the opposite could also be true too. H is going to move no matter what I do, he feels that he has no choice.
M45 H46 M16 yrs D17, D10, D7 DB 1-23-2014 H filed D 2-14-2014
