I haven’t seen any stories like mine on here, with a spouse leaving so abruptly.
I have, Scorp7 is one that comes to mind. His W was cheery when she saw him off that morning, when he got home that evening she was packed up and gone along with their 3 kids.
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I love him but I have no idea if this is even worth trying to save. Any advice?
There are no guarantees, but there are MANY marriages that have been saved through DB'ing. Give him time and space (which ironically is easier when they move to another state). Based on your post I'd have to say that a lot of his unhappiness probably revolves around giving up his career for his sport (is it ultimate fighting perhaps? Something about your description made me think that's what it is) and then his inability to compete in the sport due to injury. That has no doubt crushed a lot of his short term goals and dreams. Often when this happens, the spouse becomes a lightning rod for every problem in the WAS's life. So the LBS gives time and space in the hopes that the WAS will realize they are STILL unhappy, and that the LBS wasn't the cause after all. Then they will hopefully begin the hard work of looking within themselves to find their happiness. Sometimes when they complete that journey they come back. But until then, don't wait for him. Get busy living YOUR life. You might WANT him, but you don't NEED him. You need to find your happiness within yourself too. That's your journey. Good luck!
