Raine, thank you so much for posting. What your H tells you about his feelings and actions during the crisis helps me to understand what my H might be going through too. Your recent post gave me some food for thought, since I just spent a weekend seeing H every day. This was something completely unexpected and I’ve been trying to explain it. When I read what your H said that he wanted you to be his friend and not hate him, but was also convinced that he could not have a relationship with you, I immediately thought about my H.
I understand what you are saying about building a new relationship with someone you already know and at the same time having the elements of the old relationship mixed in. I’m not in this situation yet, but I often think the same thoughts, about how to reconcile the old and the new.
I’m so happy for you. I almost cried when I read your update. Please keep posting. You are a light house for a lot of people here too.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
