I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Went home for lunch to see the kiddos. It was a good one. W seems to have relaxed about what was bothering her (or at least she isn't showing me).

We are actually communicating better (other than this past weekend) for the most part. In terms of talking to one another, we're definitely better than we were just a few weeks ago.

The one thing I'm finding it hard to do is actually "talk" with her. We're generally communicated/joked w/ each other pretty effortlessly before the separation, even after she dropped the bomb.

But now there's this invisible wall up because of the separation that there just seems to be boundaries that weren't there before. And I'm afraid to cross any of those boundaries.

The problem with that is the fact that I can't REALLY be myself around her because of that. I can generally be pretty funny, laid back, and somewhat pleasant to be around. But now that there are these boundaries, it's hard to know what's appropriate and what is not.

It's almost like when I started to date her. But instead of being excited/nervous, I'm just nervous.

Any advice on this? I have the luxury of being able to see my wife and talk to her nearly every day. Many here don't have that. Other than some bad days, we've generally done well together the last 15-20 days. Conversation has been light and short for the most part, but it would be nice for that weirdness to go away.