What a wonderful post! I am so proud of you and your courage in plugging ahead in your 'new' M with H.
I am wondering if you are able to recognize your triggers and where they come from. When and how they occur is the key.
As for H working really hard to earn your trust, I am thinking it might be a good time to give H Shirley Glass' book Not Just Friends that, in my view, will aid him in understanding the process of affairs and how it has impacted you.
Another book that I feel H is ready for at this stage is 5LL. I think he's ready to receive tools from you as you are bringing him to your level...as his wingman. As DBers, we're pretty much ahead of our spouses in the persona growth department and I'm thinking that your H may be receptive at this stage to receive some reading material from you. Make sense?
How did putting your ring back on feel to you? How did you arrive at that point?
