One year in but a newbie

[Lifes Twists]

I wanted to post a email I sent my Wife in regards to a trip we are going to leave on in 2 weeks to visit a college down south for our middle daughter. One of my 180s is to not make the decisions but to ask for her input. Here is the email and let me know what you think:

Hi XXXX,

I have been thinking about the upcoming trip south with Andrea to see the school she wants to attend. I have some concerns and want to clear things up before we leave.

We are going on this trip as Andrea’s parents and hopefully as friends. I have noticed that you still use the word ”our” at times in relation to things like money, dog, and other things that were true when we were a married couple. I know that this is probably just a habit. This throws me at times and makes me feel uncomfortable. I just want to point this out as I am sure that I probably say things too out of habit that may make you feel uncomfortable and are no longer appropriate.

What are your thoughts on sleeping arrangements?

I think we should clarify this before we leave.

How do you want to split the expenses?

As friends we should agree on the splitting of cost up front so that we don’t start this trip with different expectations.

I also want to make sure that if either of us feels the other has stepped over a line that it is alright to correct them and not have any hard feelings.

I want this trip to go well for Andrea. I know that we can go as friends as long as we both have expectations that are consistent with friends and not as a couple. I want everyone to feel comfortable during the trip and have a good time.