So I know bug is going to ask me what this means for me. So preemptively, here goes: It means that I still have some detaching to do. It means that while the situation is relatively acceptable now (compared to where it was a month or so ago), its still not what I want - a committed relationship. It means that I still have to be patient and work on being ok without her. I still struggle with whether I should be darker than I am (we hang out about twice a week and we almost always have a great time together) or if I should be taking advantage of every chance I get to show her who I am and that we can have a good time together. I still have work on myself to do - mostly with wanting to be the fixer, and have all the answers and not really listening just to listen. Its coming along better and better every time though.
Good job!
When we start being introspective and pay attention, we can begin to have healthy Rs. We're able to think and feel and know what it is we're feeling. We respond instead of react.
It's going to take her awhile to fully let go of the OM fantasy. Let's face it, we all like fantasy, men read (look at ) Maxim, women (some) read the Twilight series. It removes us from the humdrum of our everyday lives.
How are you trying to add some of that to your R with her?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
) Maxim, women (some) read the Twilight series. It removes us from the humdrum of our everyday lives.