I get the feeling that you might want to fix him more than show compassion.

It hurts when we see loved one's struggle, my first thought is often "how can I make the pain go away?"

I had a talk with my IC yesterday about an issue with my S21 and I said "Right now it feels like accepting is giving in, that he will always be where he is" (my son has OCD)

Her answer:

"Accepting is not trying to fix or control but rather opening up room for change to happen."

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss