JG, we have told her for the time being he is traveling a lot for work, so he won't be around as much. My IC, who also treats children, said that would work for now and we need to approach it with caution because she's not going to process this whole thing as others may. That's why we arent telling her anything yet, as we have no answers. When an inevitable or final resolution is clear, we will tell her what is happening-but I don't feel putting her in limbo would be good. She's doing quite well, overall right now so we'll keep with the status quo.
And, YES! I feel family dinner is a minor victory. It could be a major victory if we can make it a regular thing so she still has a connection to H. Her biological dad is basically absent, so H is important.
And Bug, after all is said and done, I know I have work to still do on myself! I believe in all kinds of things- fate, destiny, God, spirits, free will, auras, etc. I'm a religious/spiritual mutt. I truly believe this whole thing is the universe giving me a hard shake to "wake up"! Bottom line is I need to be better in all my Rs, especially my daughter and H. And, my IC agrees wholeheartedly. That is what we've been working on.
I know H is struggling- he tells me almost every time we have contact. It's difficult to show compassion and appreciation when we have sporadic contact. He thinks he really didn't matter to us- what will me GAL do for that point of view?? (I'm not going to stop GAL, but it just is all confusing)
Ugh!? They're so frustrating!!! :-/
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
