So right now I'm trying to be a friend to her and treat her like a sister. I think that makes a lot of sense as far as trying to detach emotionally from her. But I'm wondering if that is the best solution in my case. Her issue with me is that I'm wasn't much of a leader, I never set boundaries for her as what she could do or spend or who she could talk to. I guess I took it for granted that a lot of that would be understood, but I'm now realizing that I needed to set boundaries in the relationship. Of course I don't see how that gave her the right to kiss another guy.
Right now I have been standing up to her on issues that have been important. I'm following Sandi's rules and definitely not pursuing. Trying to get a life, going with out with other guys, doing guy stuff.
The stress is tough, and I'm having a hard time dealing with her selfishness. She watches the kids during the day, while I'm at work and then I watch them at nights, Friday afternoons and every Saturday and Sunday. I try not to think about how she has every night free and every weekend free to do whatever.
