Didja think I've just dropped off the face of the Earth and not come back here??! My H has sent me two reasonably pleasant texts, so I think/hope that he is planning to leave the contentious stuff to the lawyers and try to make things pleasant when he interacts with me.
I suspect that H had a good, stern talking to by his own lawyer after he spoke with yours when your L referenced your H's piss-poor proposal in passing. H's lawyer probably told him to STFU and let him handle negotiations with your lawyer. Good for him!
If I am being honest, though, it makes me a little bit nervous. When he is acting like a jerk, it is easier for me to detach, I think. When he is nice, it starts to feel like he's my old H, and I worry that being friendly with one another will suck me right back in and put me right back on that roller coaster. I know I won't let his behavior in either direction affect how the legal process plays out, but I do worry that I will start to doubt myself again, because when he acts all charming and nice, I sometimes start to believe his BS about what a great guy he is and wonder if I'm really just mean and a bitch.
Honey, don't engage in stinkin' thinkin' or try to borrow trouble. It gets you no where at all. Just be thankful that H is relatively pleasant for a while. Heck, you could use some breather here!
