Hi PM ~ I believe I understand "SHE DOES NOT EXIST"... I am able to remove her from my thoughts for 99% of the time. So, she is not really taking up any headspace. I get that. Relating it to my boundary tho is what is confusing me, as my boundary stated as long as he is entertaining her, there is to be no reconcilliation talks.

Yesterday, he stated reconcilliation is ON the table. He said is keeping all options open. (I am assuming since he knew my boundary... she must be in the distance).

Bond ~ thank you for your advice, I will take it into consideration. I got my fix and he got his thrill. We are both good today.

We had a good working day today. No pressure from me. At the end of the day, we were in one vehicle while the other was warming up. I stated that I should get going because I had stuff to do. He texted a little bit later, then phoning saying that he was going to the store, and he was going to ask me to go, but I had already said I was busy.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)