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Hi Melissag
No. Not right now:( I had to move back in the house at the beginning and convince him to leave for part of the time. It was rough the first couple of weeks between H and I. The kids and I left and went to my parents and he packed their suitcases (things have calmed down) I came back a week later - under my attorney's advisement. They wanted us to stay in the same house together until the first court date but we both did not feel that was productive.
Our other home is being completely renovated and is unlivable at the present time.
I am waiting on the financials to find out if I get one of the houses, both have to be sold etc. At the beginning he wanted everything. He has found out that is not the case. He kept wanting me to settle out of court. Imagine.:)
I agree totally with you that it is so difficult to go back home for one thing. I haven't really been home since before college. Here and there in between travels but not since I was 18 for any length of time:)
That was also another huge issue in our marriage. I always went back to my parents for advice - Only child syndrome I think. Guilt. I spoke to a couple of my other close friends who are only children and they felt the same way.
Maybe I could go to a hotel or a friends house some of the time but I can't financially swing an apartment and it would just cause him to believe (wrongly) I was giving up my rights to the house. There is not a chance in this world that he would move out for more than he is doing.
Reading his shared parenting I think he believes we will be doing this indefinitely.
Granted right now he is paying all the bills and giving me "temporary support", but I also make sure the place is immaculate, groceries are done, house is clean etc. I know that when he moves on his own it may be a big shock how he will do everything on his own. I also feel like this is a hindrance to moving forward. I'm not sure how long the divorce will take. A few more months, 6?, Who knows?
I will keep looking at my options. Thanks!