Julie, you are none of those things, so stand up for yourself. There is nothing in DB that says you need to endure abusive behavior.

Do you think you need to endure it? If so, why?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss