Sex-Starved??? That's an understatement!

[trc2009]

This is so sobering that when I look at my wife tonight i am filled with anger for no real reason.

I'm just glad I'm not the only one! I think it's natural for us to feel anger toward them. I actually think that may be a little bit healthy. It may allow us to not pursue as much. Given the situation we are both in, I think a little bit of anger just shows we're human. We just have to keep that anger in check.

Also, don't let the unnoticed deeds bother you too much. That happens with me a lot. My W goes out of her way to keep me from doing nice things for her. In the past, I did tons of house chores. Now when I come to the house, the dishes are washed, the laundry is done, and there's literally NOTHING to get done. I told her one night I was staying at the house to leave the dishes and I'd do all of them after the kids dinner was done. She said that she didn't want me cleaning up her mess. I know our wives aren't the same people, but with my wife she would see any gesture like that (even though we've done it for years) as me trying to take care of her. And I'm the LAST person she wants any help from at the moment. Even if it's something small. Because that means she'd have to be nice to me and say "thank you."

Remember, they're doing everything in their power to hate us. More than likely, they really don't hate us at all, they just want to. And doing nice things like that makes it harder for them to hate us.