Part 2-H moving out

[bluesgal]

GB

Many of the vets on these threads agree that this crisis was likely inevitable. But, that still does not make this easy.

Years of stuffing feelings, childhood issues, trauma, fear, depression..whatever it is that caused this is beyond our control. We may have contributed to the breakdown in our M, but things get cloudy to me when issues that seem solvable are not in the eyes of our WAS-that tells me that there is something more.

This is definitely a long road and I am so grateful to have this forum to relate to people and know that I am not alone.

I see so many similarities in our situations. I hope you can balance your feelings. I can relate to the head spinning. It's hard to look at our spouses and see that the outside looks like them, but they are a shell of who they were before.

I have to keep reminding myself that the anger comes from a place of great pain. My counselor reminded me that even bullies are often the most pained and desperate people.