NEWBIES ! Hope - list of restored marriages !

[kissak]

Thanks Jack....I think your COOL too!

[THX-1138]

I just found this old thread and contrary to most who posted, I found it extremely depressing.

Of all the success stories above, there is only one told by a man whose MLC'er wife returned to him. The rest were by women. Nothing against you gals, but as a LBH, this is a blow.

Are there any other success stories to inspire us left-behind-husbands out there? Do the wives ever come back? I know Jack-Three-Bean's did, and AmyC went home, but that's about all I've seen.

I would really appreciate about a few succesfull LBH's.

Thanks,
THX

[TSquared2]

There are more... in the archives and maybe in Piecing forums...

I wouldn't use the ratio here as a hard measure, I would bet that a lot of men, once the reconciliation happens, or even gets close, just stop posting, maybe us guys aren't as "social" that way.

[uRworthy]

Hey Thx - T2 is right, many dont come back once they reconnect. And men in particular dont.

And as Jack 3 used to say, if there is a 1 in a million chance of getting your marriage back, wouldnt you take it?

No matter what happens, you will not regret it if you do the work.

Gotta keep on keeping on. The only way to do it is through it.

hang in there.

[Cadet]

I just found this old thread and contrary to most who posted, I found it extremely depressing.

Of all the success stories above, there is only one told by a man whose MLC'er wife returned to him. The rest were by women. Nothing against you gals, but as a LBH, this is a blow.

Are there any other success stories to inspire us left-behind-husbands out there? Do the wives ever come back? I know Jack-Three-Bean's did, and AmyC went home, but that's about all I've seen.

I would really appreciate about a few succesfull LBH's.

Thanks,
THX

This is the thread that I reposted that is stickied to the top of the forum.
There are some men listed there, not just one.

Also there is this thread
Successful Men

The problem with some of these linked threads is the links stop working after a while cause there is changes in the way the board works.

Also I do know other success stories of men, they just dont post on DB.

From all the success stories I have read none of them suggest doing anything that does not agree with the advice that you get here.

My welcome post has everything in it that you need to do.

Question is whether you will listen and do it or not.

Detach and Let GO, pretty simple.

[etc]

THX, sorry you're here, but you're doing pretty well all things considered. I've been at this for ~7 mos now and what you'll find eventually is that DBing is more about saving ourselves than our marriages. Yes, the stats are bleak and yes it seems that women are less likely to come back than men, but the sooner you GAL, work on your PMA and 180s, the sooner you'll feel better about everything. This is really the key here, b/c moping around feeling sorry for ourselves is not attractive - whether for our W's or for a new R down the line. Just imagine how much worse everything would be if you were calling your W every day crying for her to come back. You probably wouldn't be able to function. So, the key here is that yeah you may save your M, but DBing is actually about more than that. Nonetheless, I think you're doing great! Bust on!

ETC

[lharter]

How did your husband finally break it off with the OW or decide she was not the answer?

[TL72*]

bumping this up, I found hope here.